It was a year ago that Gracie assaulted Jack and he was taken into foster care. Gracie showed up last night and dropped Jack off. She never does that; she was high, didn't know what day it was and was out of it. We told her that it was fine, Jack could stay. I let her mom know what was going on.
Jack had diarrhea in the night and all day so we didn't send him to daycare. Whatever rattled through him last weekend, isn't finished with him yet. This morning I put him to work prepping for Thanksgiving dinner on Monday. He loves to help me cook and I surprise myself at how patient I am with him.
We talked to Lori, Gracie's mom, tonight and she agrees with us that Jack is not safe at this point with his mother. He will come back to live with us fulltime for now. It's been a horrible year for all of us, next weekend is the first anniversary of her husband's death.
I'm exhausted but can't sleep, trying to figure out how things will work.
Life shouldn't be so hard for little people.
I'm so sorry that all of this is so difficult. I'm most of all sorry, of course, for precious Jack. You are such a beautiful person to help this child. Thank you.
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DeleteThe best news being that Jack will be with you and his Grandpa!
ReplyDeleteTake a breath, take a nap, and try to relax because now you know that little guy is safe! ❤
It helps so much having the other two guardians on side with us.
DeleteThe good in this is Jack has you and his grandpa. Hopefully you'll get some rest.
ReplyDeleteHe was really sick lady night so none of us got much sleep last night. I'm hopeful for tonight.
DeleteI feel so bad for Jack, that child has been uprooted so many times. He won the grandparents lottery when he got you and the big guy.
ReplyDeleteThanks but he sure got screwed over in the parent lottery.
DeleteYou've suspected that Gracie wouldn't stay clean but I imagine that you hoped for better things. I too am relieved and happy that Jack has a stable home with the Big Guy and you. He needs the security and love that you give him.
ReplyDeleteIt took her just long enough that we lost his daycare spot 😪. I'll start looking on Tuesday for another spot, close to us.
DeleteAnd Happy Thanksgiving! My grandson also loves to "help" his mother cook. :)
ReplyDeleteI am relieved that Jack is back with you guys full-time. I can hardly imagine the stress of all this. Take care!
ReplyDeleteThank you and thanks for leaving a comment.
DeleteI remember when someone told me early into my parenting experience that parenting means to teach your child to feel, not to feel good, but to feel.
ReplyDeleteAnd parenting involves grandparenting. I am so relieved to read that this boy is with you.
Jack feels a lot of things, poor bugger, mostly conflicted about his mother.
DeleteIt is baffling to me that anyone, especially those in child protective services, could think that Jack is safe with his mother under any circumstances. Her lack of mothering skills, whether she is high or not, is a constant assault on his emotional and physical health, only balanced by the stability he experiences when he is in your home. I'm hoping that the fact that Gracie brought Jack to you and the Big Guy means that somewhere in her confused mind, she knows that he is not safe with her. It is a relief to see him back in your home again and to know he will be with you and the Big Guy for the foreseeable future and that his other grandmother agrees that he is not safe with Gracie. Sending love, as always, hoping that Gracie will do what is best for Jack and let you and the Big Guy raise him.
ReplyDeleteOnce there were guardians, children's services let go of the file and left it up to us to sort out. Gracie tried and failed.
DeleteWhat a relief he is back with you and safe. Can you get the courts to mandate this?
ReplyDeleteI find I am more patient with grandkids than I ever was with my own kids.
We will try again to get day to day parenting. We'll wait and see what happens.
DeleteWell, it was only a matter of time. However, I'm so happy he is with you and he will be safe.
ReplyDeleteMe too:)
DeleteI hope you all have a very Happy Thanksgiving Canadian style!
ReplyDeleteThank you.
DeleteI'm so relieved that Jack will be staying with you, for the time-being at least!!! I realize it has to be hard physically but you will feel so much more reassured knowing that he's safe with you and The Big Guy!
ReplyDeleteIt is hard physically but he needs routine and attention. He's family.
DeleteI'm sorry that Gracie is backsliding but I'm glad Jack has you and will be safe and loved. Having him there, hard as I'm sure it is, will probably be easier for you than wondering and worrying about him all the time.
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