One of my patients died on Thursday. She was the lady we did the biopsy on only two weeks ago. The biopsy that had turned into a shit show. I remember thinking at the time how removed she was from everything, as if she had no interest in what was going on around her. I think she knew she was dying but I was surprised at how quickly she died. Her cancer grew like wildfire and now her family is left to deal with the aftermath.
I saw my grandson for the first time on Thursday. I went with Gracie to the high risk clinic that she had been referred to because of the baby's kidneys. Everything is fine. His kidneys are fine and he is growing well. Of course I cried. I still worry about what his life will be like but I'm slowly accepting that I have no control over that. I can only do my best, be a good grandma for him and hope.
And so life continues. I saw my son briefly, told him that I loved him. I hope he can stay sober. Again, I have no control over that and I tried not to focus on it.
I'm reading a book by Matt Haig right now, "Notes On A Nervous Planet". So much of what he writes resonated with me. The always waiting for when your life begins. "When progress happens fast it can make the present feel like a continual future." "We are not encouraged to live in the present. We are trained to live somewhere else: the future." I've felt like that my whole life and I struggle with it still.
Today is not what I look forward to, it's the summer, the holiday, the trip, the lunch with my friend, time with my daughter but today often seems like just putting in time until something in the future happens.
So how do I do this? Enjoy today. Look forward to the future as well. Why do I think it's an either/ or solution? It should be a both/and solution. Maybe I'm just tired.
The dog is waiting for a walk. I wish it was sunny blue skies today but that's not the case. Today they are grey which just feels blah. I'm sure the fresh air will be good for me.