Wednesday, May 28, 2025


I took Charlie out for a walk yesterday and came across the first of the wild roses.  I waited a while for the bee to be done and leave, but that didn't happen.  That bee was getting all of the pollen in that rose.   
 

We also came across these anemones.  They were beside the pathway, on the outside of someone's fence.  Someone had taken the time to plant them for everybody to enjoy.


Yesterday morning was lovely and sunny.  The lilacs are ready to bust out.  The cat loves being outside this time of year.  She moves from the sun to the shade, and then back again.  She can't get out of the yard, her arthritis is too bad for her to get over the fence, so she has to make do with the mice she finds in the yard.

My husband woke me up at 1:34 this morning to tell me that Charlie has an ear infection and that he wouldn't stop shaking his head (the dog, not my husband).  "You need to do something," he said.

"Now?" I said.  I got up and tried to clean Charlie's ear with a damp cloth and there is old blood in his ear. I gently rubbed inside of his ear and he moaned.  I've made an appointment for him this afternoon.  Charlie is not a fan of the vet, and the vet is not a fan of Charlie, but I need more antibiotics for the poor guy.  I'll put his muzzle on and we'll get it done.  And then I'll have to muzzle him each time I put the drops in his ears.  He trusts me more than he did two years ago, but still not that much.  He's an anxious dog.

I'm done building at pottery.  Our last building class was this morning and then next week we have two days to glaze everything.  I've made a fair bit this time around and I am improving.  I'll have photos when everything is glazed and fired.

I want to thank everyone for their kind words about my poem.  I have a hard time publishing poems, because, what if someone doesn't like it.  What if it's no good.  I liked it and I needed to get it out of my brain. 

Last week I was sick and then I was cleaning out my old condo, again.  I think being in my old condo, putting it up for sale, again, brought back a lot of old memories.  And then I started reading "My Friends" by Fredrik Backman which is a sad book about grief and anxiety and childhood friends, I cried and I cried, and then I cried some more.  I think I just needed to let go of that grief and I do feel better now.  Grief is strange and hits sometimes out of the blue, even grief that you think you're past.  I bought that condo when my ex-husband and I split up.  It was my safe place, my place to start over, and I did.  I met my hubby when I lived there, and then he lived in the condo with me.  Our life grew and we moved on to this house.  Now it's time to let the condo, and all that it meant to me, go.



UPDATE:  My husband said I made him look like an asshole by waking me up.  He didn't know what to do about Charlie.  He said, Charlie was going crazy.

33 comments:

  1. I hope you'll share more of your poetry. And I'm jealous -- you already have wild roses blooming! My anemone patch just started showing off yesterday.

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    1. I only write poetry when I have to, if that makes sense.

      There are lots of wild roses blooming, or getting ready to bloom right now. It's hot as hell here and I'm sleeping in the basement tonight:)

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  2. The creativity you show with your photography, poetry, pottery and other art renderings is first class, Pixie -- don't hesitate to publish it here on your blog! That's exactly what blogs are for, in my opinion -- to express ourselves!

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    1. It's hard to express myself, to believe that I am creative. I always feel not good enough sadly.

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  3. That is spot on about grief. Raw sobbing crying is often helpful for any situation.

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    1. Grief is a strange animal, and yeah, sometimes you just have to ugly cry.

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  4. Thank you! And please don't hesitate to post your poetry and anything else that moves you. It's bound to move us too, and that's what it's all about. The best way to handle our inner critics is to say, "Yeah, yeah, you may be right. I'm sharing it anyway."

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    1. Thank you. It's scary sometimes. Poems always feel so much more personal than anything else I post.

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    2. Ten months since my husband of 45 years died. Grief changes day to day, minute to minute, day by day. It is very hard but I hope I will continue to grow around it, according to your diagram, and build a life that I can feel some contentment with. Love to any of you who are grieving xxx

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  5. I know that "what if someone doesn't like it feeling" about your poem and that's legit. Quite honestly though, I didn't like it: I loved it. Feel. Free.

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  6. The backyard is such a cheerful place. You've made a delightful place to be. I'm sorry about Charlie's ear being so painful, especially at 1:34 in the morning.

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    1. Charlie made it to the vet. I cleaned his ear tonight and he started the meds. I like my backyard too, always a work in progress.

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  7. Crying when you let go of the past is therapeutic; I've already had several breakdowns over selling my mom's house. There are so many memories in that house! Oh, dear on the Bachman book; we just chose it for Book Club. It sounds like I'll be doing a lot of crying. I'm an emotional person and not ashamed of that.

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    1. I cry at the drop of a hat and I was always told I was too emotional. So what? At least I don't stuff my feelings down:)
      You're mom just died, breakdowns are supposed to happen now. You miss her and your life with her in it. The rest of the world goes on but when your mom dies, you're not ready for it to go on yet. It hurts, a lot.
      Sending hugs sweetie.

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  8. Regarding your poem and sharing poems with blog readers, I say - just go for it! There's not enough poetry in the world right now and good poetry can address things in ways that ordinary prose will not. Take strength from the positive reactions your tree poem received and let's see some more Pixie poems.

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  9. Your pictures are so lovely! I get the bit about crying, sometimes I cannot speak bc of emotions, could be a memory, a picture, a smell, a sound.

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    1. Emotions feel like a huge ocean wave sometimes, they sweep over me and sometimes drag me under.

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  10. It's so nice to see your garden with everything green and in bloom. I hope Charlie manages the vet OK! Somehow I missed your poem so I'm now off to read that.

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    1. The garden and everything around here has turned green. There are baby birds, ducklings, and everything is flowering. Charlie was ok at the vet, but a lot of growling. We have ear cleaner and antibiotics and he's good.

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  11. I like that you post your poetry here - feel free to do so wheneber the mood strikes. I love that idea of growing around grief - I think when you grieve and process the emotions, that you will indeed grow around it :) I love to see your cat out and about!

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    1. The cat was always an indoor cat but she's too old and sore to escape from the yard now. Way too many coyotes around her to let her out the front door:)

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  12. "I only write poetry when I have to, if that makes sense."

    That speaks to my creative experiences. Thank you for the words I couldn't find and for sharing your many forms of creativity.

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    1. You're welcome Amanda. When I look back, it's usually grief that makes me want to write poems.

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  13. Yes. Grief is indeed like that. One of the problems with it is that not only does it never disappear, every new grief adds itself to that which we already carry. Or so it seems to me. And it does arise sometimes unexpectedly and we are wise to go ahead and feel it and express it and acknowledge it.
    You are a very brave and a very strong woman. You always have been.
    Enjoy the roses while they are here.

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    1. New grief piled on to of old grief is part of life, isn't it? None of us get through this life unscathed, unless we die has infants. It's how we deal with our grief and what we do afterwards that makes a difference. The grief I felt when Katie was diagnosed brought me to my knees, but it also made me a much kinder and more compassionate nurse. Even now as I write about Katie, it brings tears to my eyes. She was/is my hard gift.

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  14. Please continue to post your poems. I have been a stuffer of feelings. All that does, I've found, is make a huge pile of unhappiness. I'm learning and so are you. I'm glad you were able to cry it out.

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    1. Stuffing feelings doesn't ultimately work out that well, they eventually leak out.

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  15. Pixie, that poem was beautiful. It really made me think about things. And that is good. Your graphic says it all, grief will always be a part of who we are, it never really goes away. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sb7K_KvYpvs

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    1. Thanks for the link to the song Michael.

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  16. Thanks for the update, I was wondering.

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  17. Your poem is lovely and powerful
    Xoxo
    Barbara

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