Hubby was cleaning out the garage last week, getting things ready for winter, when he brought down two big plastics bins marked "Mum's mementos". I asked him to put them in the mud room for me because I wanted to go through them. The bins must have been sitting up in the rafters for the past eight and a half years, and prior to that, sat in my storage unit at my condo for four years.
I cleaned off the exterior and started going through the bins and the past came flying back to me. I stored most of mum's knitting that she had done for the kids, old books and artwork that the kids had done at school. I pulled out sweaters, baby blankets,baby shoes and even a first edition book of my mum's, "Babar The King".
Mum made baby blankets for all my children, actually for all her grandchildren, and for anyone she knew who was having a baby. She also knit sweaters and hats and mitten for everyone. She always had knitting on her needles, even when she was dying. I still have the outfit she made for me to bring my son home from the hospital, over forty years ago. All my children came home in that outfit. I washed the outfit, carefully laid it out to dry and then packed it away again.
The Cowichan sweater in the top photo, was made by my son's paternal grandmother. I had forgotten that I had saved it, but I'm so thankful I did. When I was a young woman, Cowichan sweaters were the thing to have. Mum even made me one, swearing the whole time she made it. Sadly, most of the knitted sweaters are too small for Jack already, so I washed everything and put things back in the bin for him when he's an adult, and may or may not have children.
I talked to my middle daughter, asking if she would want her baby shoes and blankets, she surprised me by saying yes, so I have a pile of stuff to send her. When I talked to my daughter, she asked if I had all the old family videos. My ex husband took a lot of videos when the kids were young and at some point had transferred them to CDs. I told her that I couldn't remember if I had them but would look. I found them in the first place that I looked, the drawers in my hutch, which also got cleaned out.
The CDs were sitting on the counter when my husband came home and I told him that I was sending them to my daughter, that I didn't want them anymore. When I woke up the next morning, he was copying them and cleaning them up, so that I would be able to watch them. When I saw the video of my young daughters that he was working on, I burst into tears and thanked him. Not all of the past was bad.
So this past week has been about memories and death cleaning.
So many memories in these physical things. My mom crocheted baby blankets for her grandchildren and also blouses for me as a twenty something woman, they are beautiful things. I have saved them all though the blouses no longer fit me. But I cannot part with them, because she used to say, as her fingers were working, that there was "love in every stitch."
ReplyDeleteI believe that, love in every stitch. I didn't understand when I was young but I sure do now. Homemade things take so long to make, you only do it because you love someone.
DeleteYou husband did a thoughtful thing for you. I'm pleased to read your daughter wants her baby memories, so many don't.
ReplyDeleteI'm thankful she wanted them too. I never think of her as sentimental but I think I'm wrong about that.
DeleteWhat an avalanche of memories! I'm glad you're saving the videos, and also sending them to your daughter.
ReplyDeleteIt has felt like an avalanche. It's bringing back a lot of memories and feelings.
DeleteYes, we need these mementos, even if nobody wants to wear the sweaters or the shoes. I do sort out and cast off the odd box now and again, wooly stuff has long found new owners, mostly in the family, but I still have a pair of white boots, exactly like the one in the left front of your picture, sitting on my shelf. I also have two suitcases with drawings and school work, essays and tests and corrected exams, waiting for the historians when my daughter becomes famous.
ReplyDeleteI like that, when your daughter becomes famous:) I didn't think much of it when I put it away but now, all these years later, it means a lot.
DeleteThere is something about old mementos that just makes m so sad. And I cannot bear to watch old home movies. I am not sure why.
ReplyDeleteToo many memories? I've been doing some ugly crying.
DeleteThat sweater is incredible! I remember that style of shoes too. I have my old videos on DVD too and should watch them sometimes, but they can be painful, so I have to prepare myself. My late husband is in them and that can be hard. He's missing out on so much with his grandsons.
ReplyDeleteMy ex husband is in some of the videos but more importantly, so are my children. It's got to be so hard to watch videos of someone who has died, someone you still love and miss.
DeleteAnything knit or quilted by a grandma is always full of love!
ReplyDeleteNow Jack has a sweater knit by his great-grandma, the very same lady we visted in July.
DeleteThat top sweater is just beautiful. I don't knit, but can imagine the difficulty of changing yarns
ReplyDeleteIt was more the wool itself. It was buffalo wool and tended to shred a lot. It is hard making sweaters like that though. I've only ever managed to make one and did not enjoy it at all:)
DeleteWhat a wonderful mother and husband! ❤️
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