Monday, February 6, 2023


I've cut and sewn 403 squares to make my daughter's quilt.  It is a monochromatic quilt which is what my daughter asked for.  I think about her as I make this quilt, wondering what the future will hold for her and her partner.  None of us knows, do we?

I spoke up with Jack's grandma, told her that we need help on the weekends.  Jack's auntie said she would take him Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday, which is no help to us really and I said that.  He goes to daycare during the week.  We would like them to take Jack Sunday, Monday and Tuesday as that would allow Gracie to spend Sundays with Jack.  If she wants him back she actually has to take care of him.  She also has to be able to show that she can manage work and Jack at the same time.  On the plus side she is going to AA. 

This past Saturday, Gracie texted me and said she would like to take Jack to Millenium Place.  I said sure, is 10am ok as we have to pick up Miss Katie at 10:30.  Gracie said yes, I told Jack.  Then yesterday after probably 20 text messages I ended up dropping him off in Edmonton at a rec centre closer to her apartment.  There were problems with the buses, blah, blah, blah.

When I dropped Jack off and handed him off to Gracie she told me they would be a few hours and wondered when I was picking him up.  I told her that I was not picking him up, I had made plans to see a friend.  I told her to call her sister and she must have and they must have managed to sort it out because I didn't hear anything else from her.  That family, despite their protestations of we only want her to succeed, don't communicate with Gracie very well.  Not my circus.

I saw my condo tenant on Saturday and picked up a set of keys from her.  Two weeks ago I gave my tenant notice that I am selling the condo.  I asked her when would be a good time for me and realtor to look at the condo and she said any day this week, before 2pm.  Yesterday I texted her and said, what about Monday (today) at 9am.  She told me that doesn't give her any time to clean up because she spends all day with her mom on Sundays.  I asked her again what was a good day and she said any day except I know now that she doesn't mean that.  I told her Wednesday at 9am.  This seems like it will be difficult, or perhaps just more training for me in setting boundaries:)  The place is filthy and I will need to hire a cleaner to make it look good enough to show but that money is coming out of her damage deposit.  Sigh.

I took Katie out by myself, hubby is sick again with a sinus infection, and we had a good time.  She just loves being at the mall with all the people.  OMG she loves people.  She loves people watching, waving at people, shaking hands with people, trying to connect with people.  There was a young woman at the A & W, in the food court, who asked me if I would buy her some food.  I looked at her, at the sores on her young face and at her teeth which were eroding, and said sure.  Meth is a horrible drug.  Katie didn't know what to make of the girl who seemed different; Katie doesn't understand high but she could tell that something was off.

Yesterday afternoon I made plans, and kept them, to go for a walk with a friend of mine from work.  She was kind enough to drive from the West End to Sherwood Park and walk with me and Heidi.  We walked around the dog park twice, talking the whole time.  It was wonderful.  We sorted nothing out, solved no problems, fixed nothing, we just listened to each other.  A very good friend.

And today, a warm day, the sun has come up and the sky is blue; I'll clean the house and then work on the quilt before taking Heidi for another walk.  Peace and quiet.  

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  1. Your day sounds delightful. Especially the quiet part.

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  2. I like peace and quiet, I've discovered. It's deeply underated.

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  3. I live for peace and quiet. Sometimes to my detriment.
    Katie sounds like such a loving soul.

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    1. Katie is a loving soul and a turkey, all at the same time. She also has a wonderful sense of humour.

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  4. Her family does need to step up more! If they don't want to then they should support you in your efforts 100%. I am glad you had good conversation with your friend.

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    1. Gracie's family does need to do more, I agree. Enough time has passed, they can help.

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  5. Even with the few snags it seems you had a really nice day. I hope AA helps Gracie.

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    1. I hope AA helps her too. And yes, I had a lovely day.

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  6. You will think of your daughter as you make that quilt and there will be love it every stitch when it covers her.

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    1. I realized that I have to trim each square, all 403, or they won't go together properly. And I have to take apart the 21 squares that I have already sewn together. Quilting likes to teach me patience:)

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  7. Good to see you standing up and stating your needs to Gracie and her family. Fingers crossed for you all.

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    1. It feels better when I stand up for myself. Don't know how long it will last but fingers crossed.

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    2. You said it, sista. It feels good, and it isn't always easy to do. But keep it up. You'll like and respect yourself more, and that's what all of us need, I'm sure of it. -Kate

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  8. Good for you for setting boundaries and making time for yourself and your own pursuits. It can be hard to do for those of us in helping professions. Although I'm retired, I was a teacher for 37 years and my first instinct is to nurture, even at my own expense.

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    1. I take care of people, to my detriment. It's hard to unlearn sometimes.

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  9. There's nothing like a good walk in decent weather and a heartfelt chinwag!

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    1. My mum was english and a firm believer in the benefits of walking. That was our thing, we walked and talked. It was good.

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  10. Quilting is such a detailed work, so muh concentration required. You have my respect!

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    1. I get bored at times when I'm doing the same thing over and over and over again, which is why I like to try out new patterns. This pattern is particularly tedious.

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  11. Good for you for setting boundaries with Gracie's family!!! I think we fall into the habit of doing everything for everyone only to realize later that they have two arms and legs just like we do!

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    1. I always want to please people and usually fail at it.

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  12. Those colors are so subtle. I can't wait to see how the quilt turns out.

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    1. I'm hopeful it turns out okay. It's a king size quilt, huge, and it would suck if it didn't look nice. Fingers crossed.

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  13. I'm so glad you and Miss Katie enjoyed her outing so much. Yes, Meth is a devil of an addiction and does so much physical and mental damage, if the Addicts even survive it... Fentanyl is even worse. Seems each new dangerous drug is worse than those that came before it, it's become a National Scourge and made Zombies of whole Generations of people and destroyed so many Families.

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    1. I was watching a show last night about the opiod addiction and Purdue's part in promoting those addictions. It makes me sick to my stomach but I guess it always comes down to money, be it a Mexican cartel or Big Pharma.

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  14. Your post made me cry today, and I'm not even sure why. I don't understand why everything has to be so hard.

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