Moraine Lake. We haven't been there in awhile but I wanted to see the mountains today.
We had the hearing. Gracie didn't show up by phone and it was adjourned until January 25th. I don't have a good feeling about it. I guess we'll see.
Gracie's family told us and the social worker that they would help us out with Jack's care so I asked her today if they could help us out over Christmas. Turns out they're all going away for a month. So that's not support. Merry fucking Christmas. I'm going to go cry now.
I'm so angry right now. I went outside and shovelled for an hour and I'm still angry. Gracie and her family strike again. Who cares about Jack? Did they not even think he might like to see them over the holidays? Do they even care? Why did they even bother applying for guardianship? They don't want to take care of him. FUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
And in the middle of all of this is a little boy. And it breaks my heart because he didn't ask for any of this and neither did I. I want to scream at the universe.
If she doesn't show up again, what happens?ReplyDelete
And the family is going off for a month? Really?
I'd cry too. I'm so sorry. Things just don't get any easier, do they?
Gracie is in rehab but I was under the impression she had made arrangements to be available by phone. She wasn't. She'll be out by the next court date.Delete
How many chances are they going to give her!!!! I was in a similar situation many years ago, stay strong, the love you will get from Jack in the long run will be more than worth it xxReplyDelete
The family has some problems with honesty. I don't know how many changes they'll give her. It's just sad.Delete
i would cry too. i despise them for you. *hugs*ReplyDelete
Scream loud and long.ReplyDelete
I'm feeling much better today. Still feeling used and dumbfounded but when people show you who they are, believe them. I just have to remember that.Delete
I wish I could say I was surprised. I wish I wasn't thinking, well fuck 'em then, because I wager that's not helpful. Of course you're angry. And sad too. Cry and rage, and then, if you can, shrink the world down to just the present moment. In it, Jack is safe and building towers with you and the big guy. Hold on to that.ReplyDelete
What I said in the car on the way home tonight was, fuck all y'all. I was channeling my Ms. Moon.Delete
I would be screaming and angry too! What a shitty situation. I would document EVERYTHING to use in your favor/against them. This illustrates how self-absorbed the whole family is. They may be nice enough but aren't willing or able to give up their own lives (or even part of them) for an innocent small boy. Makes my blood boil!ReplyDelete
I am keeping track of everything but I expect better. They say one thing and then do something else.Delete
Jack belongs with you and the Big Guy. He needs protection from the rest of his blood relatives. The day that you and the Big Guy are given guardianship is the day I am focusing on. I can see why you wanted to see the mountains today. Sending love always.ReplyDelete
Thank you. He's happy and safe right now, that's what matters.Delete
"FUCK" is exactly right! I cannot believe that family - they put their own selfish needs before that of a beautiful little boy. Seriously, if Gracie is as screwed up as she appears to be it would seem that the apple didn't fall too far from the tree, did it. I'm so sorry for you - but I'm happy for Jack that he gets to stay with you!ReplyDelete
Thanks. The family is screwed up. Not a lot of honesty, not that my family is any great hell.Delete
I hope all of this counts against them at the hearing when it finally does happen. As you said, it seems to say something about their level of commitment. And the fact that Gracie didn't even show up is astonishing! I don't blame you for being mad.ReplyDelete
Gracie is in rehab but I thought she had made arrangements to be available by phone. I hope the judge sees things for how they really are.Delete
I agree with Steve, above. I hope this all goes against them and you get permanent guardianship of Jack. You asked who cares about him and that would be you and your husband and he knows it and will thrive on your care. It's not what you have chosen in life but thank goodness you were there. Try to forget about them for a while and just enjoy having that little boy. And screaming at the universe is good too!! Sending virtual hugs to you, I think you might need them! xxReplyDelete
Thank you. Permanent guardianship doesn't even mean, they can't see Jack. It just means that we have a say in raising him which apparently is what Gracie doesn't want.Delete
Are you documenting everything? Every phone call, every interaction (or not), everything. I don't understand why Gracie's parents have any standing here, they're never really been involved, so why grant them guardianship now? I am so sorry this has been so thoroughly fucked up from the get go.ReplyDelete
Yes, I'm documenting everything. The court only sees what's presented to them. We'll have to do better next time presenting our case.Delete
Poor Little Jack. As you say, he never asked for any of this. But you and The Big Guy - you can do what is right. Jack needs you. You are the only adults in the room.ReplyDelete
My hubby said we can hold our heads up with honour.Delete
Your selflessness is something beautiful and he is so right.Delete