It's cold and it's snowing. It's been snowing off and on since Christmas Eve. You can see how the snow has piled up. Jack had a good Christmas, Katie and I did not.
Katie became overstimulated and overwhelmed in West Edmonton Mall. When I took her out to the parking lot to drive her home, I got her in the car and she attacked me. She hasn't done that in years. She pulled my hair (with her death grip), tried to bite me, and was head butting me as I tried to get her hands out of my hair. She was screaming and crying and continued to attack me, pinching and hitting.
I called my husband who drove back to the mall so that we could take her home together, him driving, me wrestling with her in the back seat as she screamed. I had to hold her away from me, at arm's length to avoid being pinched and hit. It was a long drive back to her place.
Then hubby drove back to West Edmonton Mall so that I could pick up my vehicle, drop off her wheelchair and drive home. There was no Christmas dinner. We had Indian food (butter chicken and tandoori chicken), and I had a glass of wine. I may have cried.
Despite Katie's meltdown, we had a good Christmas and I made our turkey meal last night. We also have a few days to ourselves as Jack is with his other grandma.
My hubby bought me a pottery wheel and I've been practicing. So far, I can't even center the clay but I am practicing.



My heart hurts for you.
ReplyDeleteThanks. It happens with Katie, it just happened in a long time.
DeleteThis is heartbreaking. How I wish I could hug you.
ReplyDeleteThanks Mary. Hubby gave me lots of hugs. He's a good man and accepts both me and Katie, just as we are.
DeleteI always love your photos of your garden covered in snow. Especially as it's usually bloody hot here!!
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry Katie had a melt down. I can't imagine how scary it must be for her to have such overwhelming feelings that she feels the need to attack and how heartbreaking it must be for you to bear the brunt of it.
Adding an Antipodean hug to Mary's Floridean one.
You wouldn't love all the shovelling involved, or the risk of frostbite. It's much nicer in photos.
DeleteYou're so right about Katie, she is overwhelmed with her feelings. All behavior is communication and she was overwhelmed.
So sorry about your time with Katie. I guess you always hope that breakdown is the last. I'm glad your husband stepped up to help. It's so hard. And I'm glad you eventually got some good food.
ReplyDeleteThe food was very good and Katie will be fine. My husband is a good man who feels no resentment that I have a disabled daugther and a six year old grandson who needs raising, he just steps up.
DeleteI'm so sorry about the meltdown -- that's heartbreaking. I'm glad your husband could help, and that the rest of Christmas was peaceful. ❤️
ReplyDeleteKatie hasn't had a meltdown like that in years, so it was shocking and I was unprepared for it. It was a good reminder. The rest of our Christmas was peaceful.
DeleteSending love to you and to Katie and Jack and your supportive hubby. The pottery wheel he gave you is a such a thoughtful and affirming gift.
ReplyDeleteNow I just have to learn how to use the pottery wheel, time and practice:)
DeleteSorry you and Katie had such a hard time, unfortunately at Christmas. Nice that you've now got your own potter's wheel, keep practising!
ReplyDeleteChristmas is the perfect time to have a meltdown, too many expectations and emotions:)
DeleteThat's upsetting to read. What an ordeal. I'm glad you enjoyed yourself afterward and I hope Katie's ok.
ReplyDeleteKatie is ok. It's hard on her but she recovers, as do I. She takes it out on me because she knows she's safe with me. I will continue to love her, even if she does hurt me.
DeleteI'm so so sorry about Katie's meltdown. It must have been awful for both of you!! I really don't know what to say because I haven't walked a mile in your shoes, but I really sincerely feel for you!
ReplyDeleteIt was awful at the time, but nothing new. We will recover:)
DeleteKatie...Katie...Katie. Sorry that it all kicked off in the car but happy that The Big Guy gave you such a great gift that hopefully you will master before long.
ReplyDeleteI made something round this morning, progress.
DeleteKatie has a lot of anxiety, there is so much she doesn't understand in the world and it scares her.
I am so sorry. This has to be heartbreaking as well as frightening when it happens. What a dear man your husband is. A pottery wheel! We are having snow at the moment.
ReplyDeleteA pottery wheel is like marijuana, a gateway drug:)
DeleteHow wonderful to have your own pottery wheel! Practice is important; I'm not a patient person (a great failing), so I tend to give up too easily. I'm very sorry about Katie's overstimulation. It must be horrible for her to have so much anxiety over the many things she doesn't understand. What a lot of stress for you also. :( Sending hugs!!
ReplyDeleteI'm not a patient person either and I hate failing, but I'm getting used to it, the practice and the failing:)
DeleteKatie gets overstimulated and she acts out, it's how she communicates. I forget that sometimes sadly.
Hugging you.
ReplyDeleteThanks Rosemarie. Sending hugs back:)
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