I am going through my blog, deleting anything that references one of my children, as per their request. I've being meaning to sort through things anyway, because of Jack who is starting to read, so now I'm doing it. Will I continue to blog? Yes, it's how I sort out the shit in my head. I love the community. I love putting my photos out into the world for others to enjoy. Many people don't understand it, but we're all different. This works for me.
Yesterday was hard. Jack and I had our ADHD class which is an excellent class, but it also brings up so many regrets about my own child rearing in the past, and also makes me sad my parents weren't able to give to me what they had not received themselves. The other parents are wonderful, struggling to do their best (aren't we all?), and the instructors are so good, and so kind. I wish I'd had this course before having any children, but would I have listened as a young woman? Doubtful. The hubris of youth:)
I am sooooo confused ... all of your posts are dated with today's date (Sept. 25), and who is "cedarlily" and you are retired, right?
ReplyDeleteMaybe your deletions have messed with the blog coding! 🤷♀️
I put all of my posts into the trash yesterday to give me time to go through them. Lilycedar was my old pseudonym, which I changed to Pixie awhile ago. Everything is coming up today because I am going through the old posts ( from 2013 up to today), rereading and deciding which ones to repost. Sorry for the confusion, it's not you, it's me. And yes, I'm still retired.
DeleteThis explains why there was a big string of posts from years ago. I figured you were doing some house cleaning.
ReplyDeleteWise to look out for Jack now, too, since he's reading.
There will be more old posts, but it will take time to go through all of them. There doesn't seem to be a better way to do this.
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ReplyDeleteYes. Very confusing! There's got to be a way to unpublish those posts without deleting them. Or so I would think! I wish you didn't feel as if you had to delete those posts.
ReplyDeleteWhat mother doesn't regret so many things about the way she raised her children? I do. I have deep guilt about some things. I try to apologize when something really big comes up in my mind. But the damage is done. I know that. Of course I tend to wallow in guilt anyway. It's my default setting.
Me too Mary, me too.
DeleteI wouldn't enjoy doing that at all so I hope my family doesn't find my blog. A lot of what I write is about them because they're a major factor in my life. Is there a way to privatize certain posts?
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry Margaret, I'm obviously the wrong person to answer that question:)
DeleteWas wondering why all those old posts of yours were appearing. My perception is that you are honoring a reasonable request from one of your beloved children and entering a new era in your blog. You've undertaken a momentous task of love by deleting what is distressing to a loved one. You are thinking of Jack's feelings, now that he is learning to read. Sending love always.
ReplyDeleteThank you Amanda.
DeleteIs there any way to mark posts as private? Or to save them off line? Do what works best for you. We are rooting for you. Much love.
ReplyDeleteThanks Monk.
DeleteWow! Big changes! For what it's worth, if you call up your posts on your Blogger dashboard, you can then hover the cursor over each post and a series of buttons appears on the right. One of them is "revert to draft." That basically unpublishes the post, but preserves it in your post list and you can then republish it after editing. I think it even saves the original post date. Hope this helps!
ReplyDeleteI jut want to belatedly add that I'm glad you plan to keep on blogging. I would hate to lose you in this community!
DeleteOK, so I looked into this. Apparently reverting to draft and then republishing DOES change the post date, if you care about that. If you want to keep the original date, just re-edit the published post and hit "update" at upper right.
DeleteYou might consider taking the posts out of the trash, making your blog private, and then editing each post to remove the problem content. When you're done you can make the blog public again and I think your posts might even keep the original date, provided you use the "update" method above. (Unless moving them to trash strips them of the date -- I'm not sure about that.) I'd be scared to keep them in the trash because Blogger deletes everything in trash after 90 days.
(Sorry if I'm monopolizing things with tech talk -- I don't mean to "mansplain" but I'm also curious about how to sort this problem out!)
I appreciate your expertise Steve. I'm had put everything in the trash, and it's safe for awhile while I go through the posts one by one. When I want to publish them, I change the publish date, but I'm going to try the update method above.
DeleteI commented and was like wait a minute.. hopefully you can continue to share in a way that respects their privacy. we are all just doing our best!
ReplyDeleteThanks JJ.
DeleteBlogging for me is a way to sort out what's rattling around in my mind. And I have met some great people out there in the blog world. Maybe Steve Reed's suggestion would help. I have never used blogspot so I cannot offer any advice. And I always enjoy your posts. They are the real deal.
ReplyDeleteThanks Michael. Your posts are as well.
DeleteI was very confused yesterday with your blog content disappearing yet in my feed, there were 25 new posts. Now there are 45. I understand now.
ReplyDeleteI was confused too but I think I'm getting the hang of it now, going through my old posts, editing, deleting, and reposting with the correct date. Only 860 posts to go:)
DeleteI have been following your blog for a good long while and I think you have been very discreet with regard to your identity and any references to your three children. It seems such a shame that you have been asked to remove any references to one of your children. Why would that be? Has something happened to spark that request? In contrast, I have named my own children and over time have revealed quite a lot of information about them. They both know that they have figured in my blog and both trust my judgement. There's no way that they would ever ask me to remove any references to them.
ReplyDeleteI have no idea why they asked for all references to be deleted, there was some talk of social media, and AI, I think. Doesn't matter why, it's done.
DeleteYour children trust you, maybe that's the difference:)