I am going through my blog, deleting anything that references one of my children, as per their request. I've being meaning to sort through things anyway, because of Jack who is starting to read, so now I'm doing it. Will I continue to blog? Yes, it's how I sort out the shit in my head. I love the community. I love putting my photos out into the world for others to enjoy. Many people don't understand it, but we're all different. This works for me.
Yesterday was hard. Jack and I had our ADHD class which is an excellent class, but it also brings up so many regrets about my own child rearing in the past, and also makes me sad my parents weren't able to give to me what they had not received themselves. The other parents are wonderful, struggling to do their best (aren't we all?), and the instructors are so good, and so kind. I wish I'd had this course before having any children, but would I have listened as a young woman? Doubtful. The hubris of youth:)
I am sooooo confused ... all of your posts are dated with today's date (Sept. 25), and who is "cedarlily" and you are retired, right?
ReplyDeleteMaybe your deletions have messed with the blog coding! 🤷♀️
I put all of my posts into the trash yesterday to give me time to go through them. Lilycedar was my old pseudonym, which I changed to Pixie awhile ago. Everything is coming up today because I am going through the old posts ( from 2013 up to today), rereading and deciding which ones to repost. Sorry for the confusion, it's not you, it's me. And yes, I'm still retired.
DeleteThis explains why there was a big string of posts from years ago. I figured you were doing some house cleaning.
ReplyDeleteWise to look out for Jack now, too, since he's reading.
There will be more old posts, but it will take time to go through all of them. There doesn't seem to be a better way to do this.
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ReplyDeleteYes. Very confusing! There's got to be a way to unpublish those posts without deleting them. Or so I would think! I wish you didn't feel as if you had to delete those posts.
ReplyDeleteWhat mother doesn't regret so many things about the way she raised her children? I do. I have deep guilt about some things. I try to apologize when something really big comes up in my mind. But the damage is done. I know that. Of course I tend to wallow in guilt anyway. It's my default setting.
I wouldn't enjoy doing that at all so I hope my family doesn't find my blog. A lot of what I write is about them because they're a major factor in my life. Is there a way to privatize certain posts?
ReplyDeleteWas wondering why all those old posts of yours were appearing. My perception is that you are honoring a reasonable request from one of your beloved children and entering a new era in your blog. You've undertaken a momentous task of love by deleting what is distressing to a loved one. You are thinking of Jack's feelings, now that he is learning to read. Sending love always.
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