Really not much going on around here. It's so hot here. We took Charlie to the dog park this morning, along with Jack. After lunch we went to the spray park to cool off. Jack had a great time, bouncing back and forth between the cold of the spray park and the heat of playground. We had supper outside and Jack got to play with his friend from next door. Our neighbors sold their house and are moving in two weeks, to a trailer out at a lake. We've been invitied out but I can't see myself driving 121 kms, one way, for a visit, so he won't be seeing much of his friend anymore sadly (another loss for him).
Jack's having a hard time right now, lots of tantrums, screaming, crying and he even slapped both my husband and me today. He's hasn't been this bad since he was taken into foster care almost two years ago. He's been spending nights with his mom again, something we didn't know about or agree to. Gracie's younger sister, she's thirty, knows better apparently. Gracie has no job and has mananged to remain sober for three months, maybe, but she's doing so good (says Gracie's sister, who lied to us about where Jack was spending his nights). She doesn't seem to understand what credibility is, that not lying is pretty much at the top of the list for being credible.
Same old shit that I'm so fucking tired of.
At least dogs don't lie.
Oh, that's so frustrating and frightening. Gracie is a powder keg and poor Jack is in the line of fire. I hope you can stay cool and somehow work out this situation. I understand the exhaustion and the disappointment.
ReplyDeleteSo, so hard. And the children getting the worst of it or feeling the effects. I'm sure that Jack feels SAFE with you -- safe and loved.
ReplyDeleteGracie's sister needs to grow up. She's obviously seen the devastation that Gracie can cause - poor Jack, and poor you! I'm so sorry!
ReplyDeleteHang on! Your two dogs ARE lying! They're lying down. Given past events, it is obviously very important that there is clarity with regard to Jack's care. What evidence is there that Gracie has been "sober" for two months? Her sister's say-so isn't good enough.
ReplyDeleteNo -- they're LAYing. lol -Kate, nitpicker extraordinaire
DeletePoor little Jack has a confusing life.
ReplyDeleteThat is absolutely intolerable- to have Gracie's sister blatantly lie to you about Jack spending nights with his mother. And then you and your husband have to deal with the aftermath. Of course, the worst part is what Jack has to deal with not only when he's with her but also afterwards when I'm sure it takes him weeks to process the experience.
ReplyDeleteObviously spending nights with his mother isn't working out. I don't know the particulars, does Jack have to be in part-time care of her family? Poor little guy. He learned slapping from someone.
ReplyDeleteGood grief. You would think that family would work with you instead of against. I am sorry this is so difficult.
ReplyDeleteThis is mean and plain stupid behaviour. That boy is being used. As always, I am relieved that at least you are there in his life.
ReplyDeleteHi Pixie, My following comment is regarding a previous post you wrote regarding hea.rtburn. This is my personal experience so take it with a grain of salt and consult your doctor. I had hea.rtburn due to h pyl.ori which was treated and cleared but the hea.rtburn continued; I suspect I had/have an ul.cer. The PP.I that I took elevated my liver enzymes so I couldn't continue taking it for h.b. I had to change my diet radically. For about 1 1/2 years, I stopped eating all caffeine, chocolate, tomatoes, citrus, vinegar-basically anything that aggravated the h.b. I also incorporated deglycyrrhizinated licorice, about 1.5g, before each meal as well as using the Herbalist's GI Gel, a mixture of slippery elm bark & marshmallow root powder. Smaller meals, as an overly full stomach also exacerbated h.b. All those strategies really helped me. There is published research about using DGL or deglycyrrhizinated licorice for gastric ulcers. I'm not so sure about the slippery elm & marshmallow root powder. I would make up the GI gel liquid ahead of time, refrigerating it, so that the cold would reduce its strong taste; but, I got used to its flavor over time. Nowadays, I can eat most foods in moderation, but still using DGL before most meals. I drink very diluted coffee and add 1/16 tsp of baking soda to reduce its acidity. Regular licorice can potentially increase your blood pressure, which is why it's important to use only deglycyrrhizinated licorice. I had to try multiple brands before I found one I could tolerate. The majority of DGL out there has sugars added as it has an unusual flavor otherwise. Erythritol and a few of the other -ol sugars has been found to increase coagulability of your blood, so be careful. I think because I eat about 3/4 tsp of ginger powder daily in a tea, it has negated the erythritol negative in the DGL I use. Like I said, make sure you ok any changes to your diet/supplementation with your doctor first. My primary care doctor was ok with it (and I didn't consult my GI doctor since she irritates me), but your doctor's head might explode. I have meant to email you for a while regarding my personal regimen for h.b. but knew it would be a long one and then realized that I would have to comment on your blog.
ReplyDeleteBe well. I know having you in Jack's life helps him enormously. Rachael
I'm so sorry to hear that Jack is struggling after having to spend time with his Mother again. And the Sister not being Truthful and being deceptive isn't at all Helpful and enables a bad situation. Credibility is something sorely lacking these days, people seem to think there actually are Alternative Truths when they make shit up and pass it off as something that should be Believed.
ReplyDelete37paddington: Honestly my heart breaks for Jack sometimes. I know yours does, too. Thank god he has you and the big guy.
ReplyDeleteYoung children think their caregivers are all-powerful and in Jack's case he may think you are "letting" unpleasant things happen, i. e. being with his mom. All unconscious I guess but I discovered this after Emil had tendon-release surgery on his legs and was recovering. His legs would spasm when I was across the room and he'd ask why I was doing it to him. He thought I controlled everything in the world. (Possibly still does even at age 35.)
ReplyDeleteI hope there's something you can do when agreements are not respected and lies are told.
-Kate
That is such a noble picture of the dogs!
ReplyDeleteIs there any recourse for you to battle the sister's lying? You have guardianship, don't you? Or did that change? Seems to me if she's lying to you about where Jack is spending his time and you're his guardians, that would be ripe for court action. (If you wanted to go there.)