Sundogs this morning at 9:30am. You can see the poor sun has barely dragged it's ass over the horizon and that's facing south. It dipped down to -30C last night and this morning with the wind chill, it was -40C at times.
Gracie started in on me again yesterday. I warned her that if she didn't stop being abusive, I would block her number. She didn't stop so I told her to go through her mom or sister to contact me and then blocked her number. At the end of it I felt like I wanted to lie down and never move again. I knew I would feel better today but at the time, it was painful. I told Gracie's mom that if it wasn't for Jack, I would just walk away but of course I can't do that and if it wasn't for Jack, I wouldn't have to have contact with Gracie.
Today I feel somewhat better, still teary and down but not lie down and never move again sad and stressed. I bought underwear for Jack this morning, we shall see what happens. He keeps me going in all of this.
And funny because I desparately need funny today. Thank you to all whose funnies I steal, mostly Oddball Observations and She Who Seeks.
I remember the potato masher issues; I also have a cheese grater as a drawer impediment. Sorry that you're having to deal with Gracie but I'm glad that you've found a way to distance yourself somewhat. Dealing with our own issues then also other people's crap is TOO much!
ReplyDeleteI have an immersion blender that serves the same purpose as the potato masher and I swear every time.
DeleteGracie is the gift that keeps on giving. Her own mother can't deal with her either.
At least she can't contact you. Does she live close by and if so does she try to push herself in by coming to your house? I have a strong familiarity with both those funnies!
ReplyDeleteShe lives about a twenty minute drive from us but it's a different city and she can't drive thank goodness.
DeleteI finally took the potato masher out of the drawer (they're comically too shallow) and put it in the pantry with the rest of the stuff I rarely use. That was an excellent use of blocking on the phone. I don't understand why Gracie can't be less of a PITA.
ReplyDeleteGracie is mentally ill and even though I know that, what she says to me still hurts so much.
DeleteOh Lord GF, do you ever need some Gallow's Humor to sustain you! And Jack, Yes, definitely worth it, Darling Boy with now new Chonies. How is Potty Training going anyway? With my Special Needs Granddaughter it took 'til Age 9 and by then she and Grandpa had to do it together since he was in Recovery from his Traumatic Brain Injury and re-learning everything all over again, including continence. I thought I'd never be done with diapers... but whalla, everyone finally caught on. *Whew* I Love The Most Interesting Man's Meme, Loved that Guy, Hated when they replaced him with a Younger, not so Interesting version, due to his Age... WTF was that even about, they blew it. I've had those Down Days, a few lately after The Accident the Grown Kids got into ON Thanksgiving, Timing being everything, well, you know... it kind of pissed on the Celebratory Mood of things for 2022. *Bwahahaha* Has anything even been Celebratory since 2016? I think not, so lets hope the Future holds more Promise? Virtual Hugs, hang in there.
ReplyDeleteThanks so much Dawn.
DeleteIn all things it helps to keep a sense of humor although I admit that I can have difficulty at times.
ReplyDeleteHumor keeps my going and I thankful my mum gifted me with her sense of humor.
DeleteI'm so sad that you have to have Gracie in your life but you did the right thing blocking her!
ReplyDeleteNo good deed goes unpunished. Isn't that how the saying goes?
DeleteJack is a lucky boy to have you.
ReplyDeleteWhere do you live to be having such low temperatures? I think I read once where you are but have forgotten. I can't cope well with heat or cold! It is a chilly 4c here this morning in SE England. I shall wear my hat for the first time on the dog walk!
Thanks for leaving a comment Frances. I live in Northern Canada, near Edmonton. Until I started blogging I don't really think I understood how atypical our weather is compared to most of the world. I've lived here most of my life though and I'm used to it. I bitch every winter.
DeletePS I am not in Maidstone as the spinning globe is saying! That is miles away. I am in Hertfordshire.
ReplyDeleteMy sister is an abusive alcoholic. I blocked her the last time, and haven't spoken to her in at least 4 years. It's such a relief.
ReplyDeleteIt is, isn't it? My son is the same way and I have cut off contact with him.
DeleteIs there any chance at all that Gracie can be committed with no possibility of her ever being released?
ReplyDeleteBeing able to block the scam calls and abusive ones is a blessing for sure!
Hang in there, Sweetie! ❤
I'm hanging:) thanks.
DeleteThe blocking feature is probably way underused. So glad you did that. There is absolutely NO reason for you to have to interact with her on any level other than what can be done through her mother. Yes. She has mental illness. But that does not mean you have to tolerate her unhinged abuse.
ReplyDeleteI try to keep lines of communication open with her but it's hard.
DeleteMs Moon is right. You really don't need to interact with her directly. Bravo for blocking.
ReplyDeleteThank you.
DeleteAs I have said before, Gracie should thank you with all her heart for effectively parenting Jack. You stepped into the breach when she was incapable. Being a parent means day after day after day - reliable, constant and loving. I wonder if she knows this blog - if she does, I say come on girl - work with Nurse Lily and The Big Guy not against them.
ReplyDeleteGracie believes that I am a control freak who is trying to destroy her life, who causes her stress with my negativity. She doesn't read this, thank goodness, or she be even more horrible to me. Gracie does not have the capacity to even care for herself, no less a child.
DeleteYou're welcome to use any meme you want from my blog, Pixie! I'm glad if they bring you a LOL or two. And P.S. when I read your weather stats, I thought -- hey, that's the same weather we've been having in Edmonton! I wonder if Pixie lives around here? And from reading your comment to another person above, I find out that you do! Small world, eh.
ReplyDeleteHaving had a Gracie in my own family, a cousin, you must do what you can to preserve yourself from the abuse, because the little guy is going to need all of you, intact and whole. It is a constant struggle, and sadly you have no choice but to engage it. But Jack is and will be the better for you.
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