Saturday, October 29, 2022


Jack had his soccer lesson again this morning.  He likes being able to run but isn't too interested in the drills because he's three and a half.  It does him good to run though and to learn how to listen to other adults and to take turns while playing.  The soccer coaches are saints because it's like herding cats dealing with eight young kids.

Toilet training is coming along well with stickers and kinder surprise eggs for every five stickers.  There were two poops in the toilet this morning with the requisite poop inspection and a high five.  The trick with Jack has been to leave him naked from the waste down.  He won't pee or poop except in a diaper or the toilet, so take away the diaper and he choses the toilet.  Now we just have to work on underwear:)


There is very little going on.  Halloween is almost here and tonight we're taking Jack to see a haunted house in the neighborhood after supper.  Yesterday we took Jack for his flu shot and he did well.  Cried for maybe ten seconds.  I would like him to get a covid shot but Gracie doesn't want him to.  Lori has gone to Singapore for ten days and when she gets back we're having a guardian meeting to decide what will happen going forward, and also if we should go ahead with a covid shot for Jack.

My daughter in law became homeless last week and has left to stay with her mother in Medicine Hat for a few weeks until she is paid the money she is owed by the government and her employer.  On the upside, my son can't physically harass her while she is so far away, just by phone.  I'm trying to stay out of it but it's hard.

This meme reminded me of Mr. Pudding, thought he might enjoy it and might even try it out.



Gratuitous shot of Heidi relaxing because she makes me happy.  She is such a sweet dog; she and Jack are best of friends.
 

I'm feeling a little meh.  We spent about an hour and a half with Gracie this morning.  She wanted to watch Jack play soccer and when she arrived he started acting up.  He said he missed her and I'm sure he does but he also checked with poppa, "I go home with you and Nana?".  I invited her to McDonald's with us post soccer and she came for a bit before leaving.  It fills me with dread having to deal with her and I worry about Jack.  I know he loves his mama and that she loves him but it's not enough.  She can't even take care of herself, not to mention a kid.  

I feel torn.  I was a single mum and I know it's hard but I wasn't an alcoholic or a drug addict.  I put myself through nursing school, with my mum and dad's help.  I was thinking about how much they did for me when my son was young and I was in school.  I couldn't have done it without them and I don't think I ever thanked them properly for all that help.  At least the sun is shining today.

16 comments:

  1. I too think it's great to have kids involved in activities where they have to interact with other people, including taking directions from other adults. I dread the potty training with my grandson; he's so stubborn! That's such a difficult situation with Gracie. Jack does love her but even at his age realizes where the stable home is.

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    1. Jack is very stubborn too; I have no idea where he gets that from:)
      Yesterday I got him to make his bed and help clean up too. He didn't want to clean up so I told him that if I have to clean up all his cars, they will be put away for the day. He didn't help, the cars got put away, there was a little crying and then he helped me clean up last night.

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  2. I love the stickers and the Kinder eggs as rewards. It will be good when the toilet training is done.

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    1. He wants a kinger surprise every time he pees or poops and I have to remind him that he needs five stickers.

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  3. He might love Gracie but I don't think he really likes her and definitely doesn't feel safe with her. If you and the big guy want to take him on I really hope you are able. This shilly shallying between homes is not in children's best interest. It's all about the adults.
    I am thrilled Heidi and Jack are best mates. Every boy needs a dog in his life.

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    1. He needs and craves stability. I think kids need a dog in the life too. Dogs love you not matter what, even when you're a cranky pants.

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  4. Of course Jack wants to come home with you and his pops. That is where he's safe, where he knows he will be taken care of and loved. And where he has his own dog to love him.

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    1. He does feel safe at our house and he has a routine which helps so much when you want to feel safe.

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  5. I really hope you can continue to keep Jack with Gracie just as an ocasional visitor - he knows where he is safe!

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    1. That would be the best for Jack but Gracie wants what's best for her.

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  6. I also hope Jack becomes permanently settled with you.

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  7. I tried it outside "The Hammer and Pincers" before last night's quiz but I am sorry to report that the ruse did not work! Nice to see Jack playing football (North American: soccer). I hope, for the sake of the little boy behind him, that Big Poppa did not fart at that moment.

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  8. Big poppa did not fart but thank you so much for your concern. I shall pass it onto him:)

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