The shortest day of the year was yesterday, and I took Heidi and Jack for a walk in the dog park. It was beautiful, at least I thought so, Jack bitched and moaned and complained for most of the walk. When we were almost back to the car, I asked him if he'd had a good walk. He said he had.
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Sunday, December 22, 2024
The shortest day of the year was yesterday, and I took Heidi and Jack for a walk in the dog park. It was beautiful, at least I thought so, Jack bitched and moaned and complained for most of the walk. When we were almost back to the car, I asked him if he'd had a good walk. He said he had.
Wednesday, December 18, 2024
It's snowing here today and will be snowing all day. And it's cold here too, with the wind, it feels like -28C. I'm so thankful we have central heating.
Just the backyard, with the snow falling.
Monday, December 16, 2024
Friday, December 13, 2024
Tuesday, December 10, 2024
It rained here on the weekend, I can't even remember what day now, but then it started snowing. As you can see, the snow was able to pile up on everything and it's beautiful. It truly does look like what you would imagine a winter wonderland would look like. I took Heidi to the off leash yesterday, leaving Charlie at home (because he's a dick I told him). She and I had an amazing walk.
Friday, December 6, 2024
It's been another difficult week, man I'm tired of those kind of weeks. Katie continues to struggle but her behavior has gotten much worse since starting on her new medication, much worse. She is not sleeping or eating, and she keeps stripping off her clothes and urinating on the floor. She seems almost manic, very restless and agitated, all side effects of the drug. I did mention this to the doctor, and at first he seemed to dismiss it, but then he did change her to another drug. We'll see how that goes.
On Tuesday I had a very sick patient, who looked like she was dying. She is dying, but she looked like she was going to go while she was with us. Her blood pressure was dangerously low, 44/32, at one point but the cardiologist who is caring for her right now, refused to let us give her fluids because of her congestive heart failure. We were worried all day that she was going to code on us because of her blood pressure. It was a huge shit show with ambulances to get her back to the UAH, but she was finally returned to the cardiology unit that she was on and proceeded to code. She survived thankfully, for now.
I'm tired of doctors who refuse to listen to nurses, and I'm tired of men who refuse to listen to women. I've been a nurse for thirty-eight years and I've seen a lot of sick people and I've cared for a lot of people who are dying. I trust my gut. Sometimes I can't tell you what is wrong with a patient, but I can tell you that there is something wrong with a patient.
I had a young woman with ovarian cancer a few years ago and something wasn't right. I ended up talking to her surgeon/onocologist by phone, while the doc was in surgery. She believed me and asked me to send the patient to emerg at the Alex. I did and the patient had emergency surgery that evening.
Right now my husband has been unwell for six months and refuses to see a doctor. I'm scared he's really sick and I've told him that, but he still refuses to see a doctor. I'm so tired of having my knowledge and experience treated like it's nothing.
Friday, November 29, 2024
Jack had a good sleep last night and he still managed to have four meltdowns before I dropped him off at daycare.
#1 Last night, he and poppa made a bead bracelet with all of our names on it. I put some glue on the knot last night, to make it strong and to ensure the knot didn't come undone. He put it on this morning and within thirty minutes it broke, because he kept twisting it.
#2 He wanted to remake the bracelet this morning and asked for my help. He was mad because the glue rendered some of the "gold beads" unuseable this morning and he had to change his design. The glue was my fault he said. Not happy.
#3 He dropped an "A" on the floor, the last "A" in the bottle of beads and he couldn't find it, so he couldn't spell out papa. I said we could change it to poppa, not happy.
#4 I told him I could remake the bracelet later, because it was time for OSC (out of school care). He wanted to know what later meant. Did that mean I would be home all day? Which, if that was the case, he figured he could stay home all day. That was not going to happen after three meltdowns. Then he was crying because he said, "I'm only a kid, and you yelled at me." I told him that I understand that he is a kid but I did not yell at him, and I was very frustrated with him. More tears.
A lot of tears this morning. I know he has ADHD, but so do I, and I can only take so much in the way of overstimulation I realize. It's been really cold this week so he hasn't been outside for exercise and I should have put him on the elliptical before supper last night. But I didn't think of it. I was tired. So I felt like a failure as I drove home after dropping him off. It's too cold to walk the dogs. I had a cry, but I'll get on the elliptical later to burn off some of my excess energy and stress.
Part of Jack burning off his energy involves pacing around the kitchen while making lots of noise. Last night he was doing this while naked because again there was an issue about his shower/bath at bedtime. The pacing and the noise was too much for my poor brain. He pushes me to the limit and then I walk away to stop me from yelling. There is something about ADHD called rejection sensitive dysphoria (which I realize now, I've had all my life and it explains A LOT). So the feelings Jack has when I walk away, rejection and a feeling of failure, are intense for him. All of his feelings are intense, full disclosure, so are mine. We're quite the pair.
But now I know and I'm trying so hard to be patient with him and with myself. We feel things strongly. Our feelings get hurt easily. We feel rejection often. This is hard but I feel like I have more tools available to me this time round. My two oldest also have ADHD and I can honestly say I feel like I failed them, but when you know better, you do better. Or at least that's the theory:)
Tomorrow I think we'll head to the pool for some exercise and to burn up some of that excess energy of his.