I think our neighbors are taking care of a friend's dog, a large labradoodle, and this offends Charlie. It is his job to protect our/his yard from all invaders both domestic (dogs) and foreign (squirrels). He take this job quite seriously.
I took Katie out for lunch yesterday. It was fine until we were almost back to her place and then she attacked me, hair pulling, head butting, and scratching. I put the car in park and then I gave up and started crying which seemed to startle her and she let go. Note to self, cry next time too.
I dropped her off and went home but got a call a couple of hours later. There were two relief staff and Katie did not like that, strangers in her house. You can't really blame her. I went back, there was ice cream and she finally took her pills including extras for pain and agitation.
Today she had a doctor's appointment for her US results. When I went to pick her up, she was naked and covered in shit, screaming and crying. I got her into the shower and cleaned her up but she was still upset so I left her at her place and went to see the doctor on my own.
She has cysts on both sides, follow-up US in three months, and keep taking the naproxen and add tylenol to it. If things gets worse again, take her to emergency again. In three months we'll decide what to do.
For now, watch and wait.
My shoulders are up around my ears and I was short with Jack tonight, but I did explain that I was worried about his auntie and that I didn't have enough band width to deal with any nonsense. He was good about it.
Before supper he did say this his life was so hard and he didn't know how he was going to deal with it as he got older. He was most worried about puberty. He's fucking six. My husband and I confirmed that we had both survived puberty and that he would too.
In the tub tonight he listed all the things wrong with him, asthma (very mild), ADHD (welcome to the club, nothing you can do about it), and he thought he might need glasses. OMG child. He's just like me. I told him that I would make an eye appointment for him. His last one was fine.
I also don't have the bandwidth to read or comment much on blogs. My apologies.
I saw this meme and it hit home right now.
I'm so sorry about Katie, and what you have to go through there. Jack seems like a great kid, and I'm glad you explained to him you have things to deal with too. He's a lot wiser than I was when I was six! Please never feel you have to comment on my blog. Thank you for posting here. ❤️
ReplyDeleteThanks Jean.
DeleteYou had a rough day (or seven?). But you sit down and write it out. Smart move. xoxox Kate
ReplyDeleteWriting helps get it out of my head, it's either that or talk and I'm alone most days.
DeleteIt's fine to skip commenting on blogs. Or reading them, for that matter. You're dealing with so much all the time. Whatever gets you through.
ReplyDeleteThe reading helps, when I have the energy:)
DeleteI feel bad for poor Miss Katie. I hope the next 3 months are not too rough for her.
ReplyDeleteI have the US req. If her pain increases, I'm not waiting three months, I'll just book it and get it done.
DeleteWhat Boud said.
ReplyDeleteThanks.
DeleteOh my word, I'm so sorry for everything you're going through. Poor Katie and poor Jack - no six year old should be that worried but you did a great job explaining to him why you might have been short. Sending you hugs from across the pond!
ReplyDeleteJack is a lot like me and borrows worries from tomorrow. I'm trying to teach him and me how to stop doing that.
DeleteIt is to understand that a six year old would have any knowledge of puberty, let alone what the word even meant. Am I so out of touch? How have these teen or adult worries been placed on kids?
ReplyDeleteI was thinking the same — I wonder where he got that from?
DeleteHe goes to school with children who are already starting puberty. I think we've had conversations about his body changing too as he gets older. Then we started watching a movie last night and the kid said, "Hey, is this puberty?" Serendipity.
DeleteYou are dealing w/so much, and all w/grace. And for all Jack has gone through, I'm glad he is so comfortable sharing his thoughts w/you.
ReplyDeleteJack is not the kind of kid to keep things inside, usually.
DeleteThree months seems like a long time to wait when there’s clearly a problem that has been around for a while….
ReplyDeleteI'm going to keep a close eye on her and her moods.
DeleteOh Jack! Kids say the darndest things indeed. Sending love to Ms Katie, I hope the medication works to ease the pain. Big hug for you.
ReplyDeleteJack does say the darndest things:)
DeleteI just wrote last night about having always been a worrier. Seems like Jack is a member of the club too.
ReplyDeleteOh, poor Katie and poor her mama! As if things weren't difficult enough.
I was a worrier too as a kid. It goes along with ADHD.
DeleteYou're stretched as far as you can go. Poor Katie! The world is a terrifying enough place for those of us who understand (mostly) what's going on. Jack is an old soul. My older daughter was too; she wanted to talk about death when she was five. I wasn't prepared for that.
ReplyDeleteJack has talked to us about death too, freaked me up until I googled it. Apparently it's normal for kids his age to wonder about death.
DeleteYou sure have been dealing with a lot. I can only imagine how hard it must be dealing with everything. I have wondered how Katie has been doing. And please, no worries about comments...there are only so many hours in a day! Take care.
ReplyDeleteI called Katie's house today and she's doing well. I'm glad.
DeleteWell Good Lord, your plate is FULL. I don't blame you for feeling a bit overwhelmed. I hope the medicine works to make Katie feel better and act out less, and I'm amazed Jack is worrying about puberty at six. I don't think I knew what puberty WAS at six.
ReplyDeleteWe've talked about puberty before, about bodies changing, but I didn't realize he was listening. He listens.
DeleteYou don't need to comment. Just use your time wisely and write your blog.
ReplyDeleteIt's wonderful.
Thanks. Things are better and I'm getting outside more which always helps.
DeleteOh, dear Pixie. I don't think any person would feel calm after all that. How you handled it with Jack is perfect. That he is worried about puberty is sorta cute.
ReplyDeleteThat boy worries about a lot of things. This morning it was the seatbelts in the car.
DeleteWhat Mark Twain said is so right.
ReplyDeleteMark Twain was a smart man and a deep thinker.
DeletePoor Katie. Processing pain is hard enough without inability to communicate it - and then get a "hurry up and wait 3 months"! And poor Jack - ADHD with anxiety is a very thorny issue. And poor Pixie - much like Charlie, trying to stand guard while all around cannot be controlled.
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