Tomorrow is our wedding anniversary, although we don't celebrate it, and often don't even notice it was our anniversary until after the fact. This is my hubby, the big guy (he's 6'5"); it's so nice to see him smiling. We've been together for fourteen years now. We were both divorced when we met and I swore I would never remarry, but I did. And now we're raising a six year old which has been hard on our relationship and hard on us in general. Neither one of us thought we'd be raising a child at this age, but here we are.
We have different ways of parenting, as do most parents. We've also done this before and seen the results. Jack has ADHD, and I have the advantage there, as two of my kids have ADHD, so I think Jack is pretty normal (fucking tiring, but normal). My husband did not raise a child with ADHD and finds it difficult at times; fortunately he is a calm, patient man. Both of us feel unappreciated by the rest of Jack's family, we have that in common.
Otherwise, not much. Jack started school and promptly came down with a virus. He's better now, no fever today, just a cough. We saw his doc this morning and she confirmed he has asthma and put him on a steroid inhaler, along with the ventolin when needed as a rescue inhaler.
I'm so tired. I don't know why. I do the same things, but I drag as I do them. I just took the dogs for a walk and it was hard to keep going. Now I feel like having a nap, but Jack will be home soon. The threat of a teachers strike looms large as our useless premier blames the teachers and schools for all the problems of underfunding.
My husband built this beautiful shed this summer and I love it. I'm calling it our anniversary gift to each other.
And now for some funny, because god knows we all need it.
Of course you are tired! Try to take care of yourself the best you can. ❤️
ReplyDeleteI feel extra tired. I had some cookies and that helped with the fatigue:)
DeleteYou are wonderful grandparents, but you do need some alone time sans Jack!!
ReplyDeleteThat shed is beautiful! Happy Anniversary belatedly!
Thanks. He did such a good job on that shed.
DeleteYou sure you don't also have a virus? I wouldn't be surprised.
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile happy annie!
I don't feel sick, no fever, no cough, just tired.
DeleteOf course you’re tired! You’re raising a six year old! The shed is wonderful. Happy anniversary. It’s not easy parenting again but good man, he rolled up those sleeves and he’s doing it with you. Good woman too. Now get some rest when Jack is at school.
ReplyDeleteHe is a good man because he could have walked away from this. He's good with Katie too.
DeleteHappy anniversary.
ReplyDeleteThe shed looks great, and yes, I read the sign wrongly.
I read it wrong too:)
DeleteYou two are a pair of capeless heroes and deserve a nice shed for an anniversary gift! Next, see if he'll build you a she-shed for girly-getaways ... next summer. I'm teasing. But you could both benefit from a fancy splurgy supper out, child-free.
ReplyDeleteThis 'tired' thing is still going on here for both me and Fbo. Maybe we need to eat more greens or something. Maybe it's the smoke from our planet burning. Maybe it's the world news. I don't know --probably all three, plus stress and age- but it's getting tiresome.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who is too tired. It feels like an apocalypse is imminent, and it preys on the mind. Sigh.
DeleteWe went out for a matinee movie on Sunday, our only available time. We saw "Naked Gun 2", it was so stupid and funny. Plus I love Liam Neeson and Pamela Anderson.
Friends with benefits made me laugh. There was a time when I couldn't drive at night due to cataracts. I'm still not the best at it, especially if it's raining. Happy Anniversary to both of you! Rearing a six year old (or any child) is exhausting, not just physically but emotionally and mentally. And it can do a number on adults' relationships. My husband and I had a few go rounds about his leniency versus my "too many consequences." He came to see the error of his ways. ;) I'm so sorry that Jack is sick. Sharky just started kindergarten and is in a Latch Key program afterward. It seems like a long time to spend at school, but he likes it so far. (extra recess)
ReplyDeleteI hate driving in the rain at night, way too many reflections and yes, it's gotten harder as I've gotten older.
DeleteRaising kids is just hard at any age I think. I'm so thankful I'm retired now:)
Happy anniversary to you both. Your husband is a very talented man (love the shed - but I love the tree house even more)! And yeah, I hear you on the "friends with benefits" part!
ReplyDeleteMy hubby is talented. The shed turned out beautifully and now I have someplace to store all of my gardening shit:) Jack keeps wanting things added to his treehouse. Now he has a plant in a pot up there. If he could get a fridge or wifi, he'd be happy.
DeleteHappy anniversary. You have done well, marrying a man who has joined in with the raising of Jack. He will make so much difference in that little boy's life.
ReplyDeleteAnd what a beautiful shed he built!
I have no doubt you are often tired. How could you not be?
I'm a very thankful he wants to raise Jack. He didn't get to really raise his own kids much, too much time spent working out of town, so he likes having this time with Jack.
DeleteThat shed is beautiful. I could never do something like that. Of course you are tired as a six year old will do that to you! I know if I lived in Alberta, I would despise your premier. When I taught, I used to get so sick of educators being blamed for all of society's ills, but the ones in charge were always looking for ways to cut the budget and make things even more difficult for teachers to get the job done. In Virginia, teachers don't have the right to strike, so I was never involved in anything like that.
ReplyDeleteI could never do something like the shed either, too impatient:)
DeleteI despise our premier too, she is a two faced liar, and allows anti vaxxers and conspiracy theorists a voice in our province. Chemtrails, fucking chemtrails. Really? Sigh.
I repect teachers. I could never do that job, not without bloodshed anyway:)
When our grandson was 6 and came to visit, I would be completely worn out by the time he left. I can understand why you are tired.
ReplyDeleteThey have a lot of energy:)
DeleteThat is some lovely shed! I would not even be up to his shoulder, that is TALL. You have a lot on your shoulders, Pixie. I think you are doing well, better than I believe I would do.
ReplyDeleteHe is a tall guy, gives the best hugs.
DeleteCongratulations! I just read an Irish novel about marriages and divorce and why some people stick it out and others don't and I felt all composed and sorted when I finished it and then the man cannot find his ipad and thinks he's probably left it under a table in a cafe earlier and well, I tell you another time.
ReplyDelete(The novel is called The Coast Road by Alan Murrin)
Too funny. Marriage is hard, especially with an Irishman?
DeleteI'll have to find that book at the library.
DeleteCan you two get a weekly sitter? Just for a few hours? Just an idea.
ReplyDeleteTo be honest, we're too damn tired to go out in the evenings. We've never had a sitter with him. We're old now, we don't go out much anymore.
DeleteShed is absolutely gorgeous!!!!
ReplyDeleteAs important as raising Jack is, do not neglect your relationship with hubby…. You’re in this for the long haul!
Hubby did a beautiful job. We do neglect our relationship when things get tough, like most people I imagine. It ebbs and flows.
DeleteHappy Anniversary! Chemtrails, really? Please.
ReplyDeleteI know!
DeleteI really DID read that wrong. Funny how the brain works. Happy belated anniversary!
ReplyDeleteThe brain just makes shit up:)
DeleteNice picture of Mr Pixie. He looks like a gentle giant.
ReplyDeleteHe is mostly a gentle giant.
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