The snow has gone again, hopefully for the last time. Jack is out riding his bike, Charlie and I follow behind.
I watched a video on Cheerful Monk's blog this morning and it resonated with me. I have always struggled with my emotions and regulating those emotions, among other things like organization, impulsivity, and fear of rejection.
The video named five things I can do to help with my emotional regulation.
1. Scan my body immediately and to see what it's doing, clenching, tightness, etc. and relax what is tight.
2. Inhale and exhale with the exhale twice as long as the inhale.
3. 2 minutes of intense physical exercise like jumping jacks.
4. Name it to tame it. Name the emotion, feel it, and then let it go.
5. Give love and specific appreciation to someone.
None of this is new but it also explains in scientific terms when you would feel better. I'm a science nerd and I appreciate knowing the why of things, makes me more likely to follow through on something. I remember when I was a young nurse and a resident wanted me to start an insulin drip on a patient who was not diabetic. He had to explain it to me a few times before I finally understood and then I was willing to do it. Understanding helps.
Anyway, that's been my week so far. Pottery was wonderful yesterday, my plants are outside enjoying the outdoors which is good because I just checked the weather and we could have snow again later this week. At least Alberta is never boring:)
And because summer is coming.



I definitely need some of those mosquito traps. But I bet squirrels would get into the rum and fall out of trees onto people's heads.
ReplyDeleteYou're so good at studying how to deal with feelings and responses. You simply never give up. You must have been a great nurse, too.
I've seen videos of drunk squirrels, the poor little buggers don't seem to have a clue, but they are funny.
DeleteIt's Cheerful Monk who put me onto the video and I keep trying.
I laughed at both those memes!
ReplyDeleteThey made me laugh too:)
DeleteI love that mosquito trap and the herb labels!!! Too funny!
ReplyDeleteAgreed:)
DeleteGreat meme I think I would have drunk animals if I set that out.
ReplyDeleteIf only the mosquito trap actually worked! I'm lucky though and mosquitos rarely bite me.
DeleteYour way of sharing what you're learning helps me too. -Kate
ReplyDeleteI'm glad Kate.
DeleteThose are excellent steps to follow. I think it's important to have a strategy, so we don't feel helpless when we're under the grip of strong emotions. The mosquito meme--haha! Wouldn't it be great if it actually worked and we could film it? I hope your snow is finished!
ReplyDeleteI have spent my whole life governed by my emotions and I'm not a fan, if this can help both me and Jack, it would be another tool to have.
DeleteOMG. I just wrote an article on Substack about Wearing my shoulders as earrings after a bout of extremem highs and lows from T1D. My body hasn't caught up with my brain- we're safe now.
ReplyDeleteI had to look up T1D, I felt foolish when I realized it was type 1 diabetes. In Canada we call it IDDM, insulin dependent diabetes mellitus, same same.
DeleteI can't imagine living with a chronic physical illness and brittle diabetes is very scary. It's a hard way to life but it's not like you have a choice.
Love your portraits of Jack. I'm learning emotional regulation along with you and Jack.
ReplyDeleteMosquito trap! Ha!
I'm glad I'm not the only one still learning emotional regulation Amanda:)
DeleteGood advice from the steps to take when we're trying to regulate our emotions to how to control mosquitoes. Thanks! I can use all of these.
ReplyDeleteMosquitos and emotional regulation, it's all here:)
DeleteMosquito trap ... what a hoot!
ReplyDeleteIf only the trap worked!
DeleteInteresting step-by-step tips for the emotions. When I was practicing Buddhism there was always a big focus on breathing, to bring us to NOW, the moment at hand, and get us out of our heads. I suspect tip No. 2 serves a similar kind of purpose.
ReplyDeleteHoping that snow doesn't return!
It's supposed to snow tomorrow, so much for hoping. In the spring though the snow doesn't last long.
DeleteThe longer exhale is supposed to engage the parasympathetic system which is the opposite of the "fight or flight" sympathetic nervous system. I'll give it a shot.
Soooo, you're saying the mosquitoes grow pretty big in Alberta........
ReplyDeleteThe mosquitos get huge here:)
DeleteSometimes I think we bloggers should be called name-it-to-tame-it'ers.
ReplyDeleteThat would probably offend someone, somewhere:)
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