Monday, December 1, 2025




I could have worked on Jack's quilt this morning, but I wanted a break from it and I miss the clay.  I decided to make another mug and my skills have improved a lot over the last six months which makes me happy.  I've been practicing, and watching lots of videos about making mugs from clay slabs.  




I took the dogs out this morning for a walk.  Charlie and I usually walk around this pond which is now frozen over, no more ducks, geese, or coots.  I imagine there are a few muskrats, warm and safe in their homes.  There are coyote tracks on the snow, hoping to find a muskrat I'm guessing.
 

I called a lawyer's office again this morning, still nothing.  I called another law office that we've used for real estate, they also provide estate planning, and I can't get through to them either.  I also wrote the Federal Minister who is in charge of this whole debacle.  It's starting to feel a little personal but I have decided to stop worrying about everything.  There is only so much I can do and what will be, will be.  We'll see how long that lasts:)

I just got a phone call from Jack's school and he's been in another fight at school during recess.  There was a kerfuffle over a toque and Jack punched a kid, and the other kid punched Jack back (good!).  But now of course we have to deal with it once he gets home because violence is not allowed.  You can get mad, you can yell, but you need to walk away.  He knows this because we just spent ten weeks learning about all this stuff.  More practice required.  He is six and still learning to deal with some big emotions, with a brain that is wired to go turbo speed, or veg out speed, and with the two speeds alternating throughout the day.  Nana has that problem as well, all or nothing.

Jack is enjoying swimming with me and his dad on Saturdays, and I'm enjoying it too.  When I was growing up I was usually in the pool two or three times a week and I loved it.  It's nice to get back into the water.  There are things I can no longer do, like get out of the pool gracefully, but it feels good to stretch my muscles.  I refuse to look at myself in a mirror and figure others will just have to deal with my body as it is.  Last week there were some teenage boys spitting water at each other.  I did point out to them that the water they were putting in their mouths, had been in contact with everyone's butt, but I should have said that the water had been in contact with everyone's dicks.  That probably would have grossed them out more:)  Next time.



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  1. Tell the swim boys that everyone's peed in the water, too!

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    1. That grosses me out! I try really hard not to think about that.

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  2. Yes, there comes a point where it is best to not give your body a self appraisal. I hope your words with Jack had some impact.

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    1. We had a family meeting, complete with notes. I stayed calm, everyone stayed calm. It's the same boy, so I think there needs to be an intervention with Jack and the other boy, find out what's going on. Hurt feelings I'm guessing.

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  3. Yup ... telling the boys that the water in the pool is also a lot of pee water!

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    1. I try not to think about that, you guys aren't helping:)

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  4. Jack still has a way to go putting his learning into practice. But he's only six. He'll get there.

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    1. It's hard being 6, or 63, and getting angry. More practice.

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    1. I'm not a fan of my now round middle, but what can I do? Accept it. It's part of life.

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  6. Swimming is wonderful exercise; I wish I enjoyed it. Even when I didn't look revolting in a swimsuit, I didn't care for. I always got water up my nose! I hope the Jack fighting situation can be resolved. It sounds like you're doing everything right. My older daughter says that Sharky is pushing every boundary and she's SO tired of it. She's only 39 so I know that I would be at my wit's end.

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    1. We had a long talk about what happened yesterday and how do deal with it better. I learned how to deal with things at the skills course, and while we talked I listened, and event took notes. It helped me stay calm and on course.

      I love swimming, always have. Jack loves it too thankfully.

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  7. I'm glad Jack had that class and hope it helps.

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    1. Time will tell. My hubby and learned things too, so hopefully between the three of us, we can work things out.

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  8. I hate looking at myself in a swimsuit too but I remember being on a beach in Spain and some of those women were HUUGGGEE - and couldn't give a shit. Gotta be more like them!

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    1. I have skinny arms and legs, with a round middle, and there's nothing I can do about it:)

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  9. There's so much to learn for such a young boy, and if at first you don't succeed, try and try again etc. Well, just take a look around to see that there are too many adults who missed that lesson.

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    1. There's so much to learn for grandmas too:) Learning how to parent better, I hope.

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  10. Jack will learn, just as you have. Just as most of us do. And he has YOU and his grandfather which will make all the difference.

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  11. That pool story with spitting water gave me a good laugh this morning. Thank you! I have been complaining about the weather here (cold and damp and pouring) but you put things in perspective for me when I saw the photo of the frozen pond!

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    1. It's not so cold right now so I don't mind it. It's when it drops below -20C that it's really unpleasant and everybody gets cabin fever, even the dogs.

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  12. The mug looks good. You have worked through a lot of ongoing issues. I know it's not the right thing to do, but boys punch one another on occasion. It is part of a woman's aging to develop the 'belly'. Not fair.

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    1. I know boys hit each other, but I would prefer if he just walked away from things. That kind of anger gets you into trouble in so many ways.
      Apparently my "belly" wraps all the way round my waist:)

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  13. As shocked and mortified as I am when looking in a mirror, appreciating and accepting the body that has given me so much and still works hard for me is my aim. My attitude toward it is my attitude toward myself, which tells me a lot about where I'm at with that. One thing I do remember from being with a group of nude women of all shapes and ages was how surprised I was to find them all beautiful -- even the overweight, even the saggy and wrinkled. And why do we think we have to be beautiful anyway? Either inside or out. Nope. None of us are, neither completely nor always. You've got the right attitude (Fuck it!) at the pool.

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    1. I look like my mum and I also am starting to look like all of the little old ladies that I have cared for over the years. I have strange bumps and lumps on my skin, when I take my socks off, dead skin flies everywhere, and I have no top lip left. WTF

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  14. Yeah, I pretty much don't care what people think of me in a bathing suit. Who cares? It is one of the joys of aging.

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    1. It's true. I care less and less, although I wonder how much I ever did really care. I remember ending up at the bank one morning when my kids were little and I realized I was still where my pyjamas:)

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